My husband said I wasn’t managing my time properly so he presented me with a chore play, I’m fuming

How do you share chores around the house to make sure everyone gets it right?

For this busy mom, her husband presented her with a rota of housework and found it overwhelming.

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Taken to Mumsnet, she wrote: “My husband asked me to work something out a week before Christmas and I said I can’t, I’m at my maximum capacity to arrange everything for Christmas and my son’s birthday. our daughter a week later.

“He does help but the lion’s share for me when I work 3 days a week.

“The task he asked me to do didn’t have a fixed deadline so I said take it in the new year.

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“My husband was upset with this, told me I would have to think more once we started remodeling our house so I tried to explain the mental load and everything that fell on it. How is my hand, he doesn’t understand.

“He took two tasks off my to-do list and thought that solved everything.

The real problem is: “He’s spent the last few weeks thinking he’s doing 50% of everything but he doesn’t understand that he’s really not.

“So after another argument about this, he decided we needed a fixed rule of who’s going to do what, breaking things down 50/50.”

When they had two young children, she explained, “Our two kids go to daycare on the days I go to work and have all of their meals there.

“I really thought he was trying to help but really, is that all he thought was needed to run a house and raise two young children?”

Busy moms also share the rota they’ve created.

Commenters gave her advice, saying she was right.

One person said: “Rewrite rota with all the things that really need to be done, to make the point.”

Another advised: “I’ll tell him he’s missed out on too much and write a list to show him! The practical stuff is missing but there’s also the mental download as you said. “

One fellow parent weighed in, saying, “I’m a lone parent, so I actually made my own daily/weekly/monthly checklists, and they’re huge.

“He’s an advertisement**k!” she told her.

While one admitted: “Sorry but I really can’t live like that… Rotas was my student days,” many agree that they only do housework around and when they need to.

Another couldn’t hold back their laughter as they said, “Haha is this a real man?! It’s so hilarious that it’s not funny.

“Write your own rota with the facts of the situation on it, and remember to include EVERYTHING!!!!

“Liked the advice to only do what’s on rota, everything is kept maybe his responsibility because he missed it from the rota he emphasized when writing!”

Many agreed with one person who advised her: “This requires some malicious compliance. Do nothing else. Let us know how it goes.”

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