ICARLY star Jennette McCurdy has revealed the horrifying details of her mother’s physical and emotional abuse as a child.
The 30-year-old actress said her late mother Debra would force her to shower with her 16-year-old brother Scotty when she was 11 as a control tactic.
Jennette discussed the abuse in her memoir, I’m Glad My Mother Died, and revealed that she suffered at Debra’s hands until she died of cancer in 2013.
The Zoey 101 star read excerpts from the book on Jada Pinkett Smith’s Facebook Watch series Red Table Talk.
Jenette focused on a section about how she felt when her mother let them bathe together.
She read: “My whole body is freezing. Oh no, not the shower time. I’ve been scared of showers for a while, five years or so.
“She says she has to shower me because I don’t know how to shampoo and condition my own hair.
“Mom sometimes showers me with Scotty. I’m really embarrassed and I can say he is too.”
Jennette continued, “We usually look away from each other and Scotty distracts himself by drawing Pokémon in the fogged glass.
“If she showers us together, Mom says because she’s too busy.”
Jenette said the showers included genital and breast exams, which her mother said were to be screened for cancer.
“Whether Scott’s with me or not, mom gives me a boob and butt exam, which she calls my privates,” she read.
“She says she wants to make sure I don’t have any mysterious lumps or bumps that could be cancer.”
Jada looked horrified and asked Jennette how the ordeal had affected her relationship with her brothers.
The ‘Malcolm In the Middle’ actress replied: ‘I’m so close to all three of my brothers. Isn’t it amazing that we have such a beautiful bond?
“There’s such an understanding there because of the things we’ve been through together, the things we’ve seen together.”
Jada tearfully agreed, adding, “I love that you guys are close because that kind of abuse can be … divisive.”
Although Debra was never diagnosed with a mental illness, Jennette said her therapist believes her mother had bipolar disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, or a combination.
She said Debra encouraged her to eat tiny portions, lighten her hair and whiten her teeth — behavior that led to an eating disorder.
The actress, who weighed herself five times a day as a child, said she battled anorexia, binge eating and bulimia for years.
Debra also hoarded and forced Jennette and her three older brothers to sleep on mats on the floor.
She said her mother often chased her father Mark around the house with a kitchen knife and refused to go to therapy.
Jennette later shocked the Red Table Talk hosts by reading out an offensive letter Debra wrote to her after seeing photos of her and an ex-boyfriend online.
It read: “I’m so disappointed in you. You used to be my perfect little angel, but now you’re nothing more than a little S**T, A FLOOZY, ALL CONSUMED.
“And to think you wasted it on that vile ogre of a man. I’ve seen the pictures. I saw you rub his disgusting hairy stomach…add that to a list of things you are: liar, sneaky, nasty.”
She added: “You look chubby too. It’s clear you’re eating away at your guilt. What happened to my good little girl?
“Where did she go and who is this monster that replaced her? You are now an ugly monster. I told your brothers about you and they all said they denied you just like me.
“We don’t want anything to do with you. Love mom – or should I say Deb since I’m not your mother anymore? PS Send money for a new fridge; ours broke.”
Jennette said she is in therapy to heal from her traumatic childhood but plans to forgive her late mother.
She was able to curb her eating disorders and make peace with her mother’s death by undergoing intensive Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) for two years.
If you or someone you know has an eating disorder, please contact the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) at 1-800-931-2237 or visit NationalEatingDisorders.org.
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https://www.the-sun.com/entertainment/6175306/jennette-mccurdy-mother-bathed-her-brother-together-control/ Jennette McCurdy claims her late mother bathed her with her 16-year-old brother to “control” them in an interview with Red Table Talk.