MUM-OF-HAI shared her disappointment that her sister-in-law didn’t show up for Christmas because she didn’t want “lucky to be rubbed in the face”.
The woman sadly explained that carrying a second child was extremely difficult because she had an ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage, so she considered it insensitive to claim she had “lucky”.
She also said that her sister-in-law asked her mother and father-in-law not to attend so they could spend the day together.
Write more articles Mumsnet, she said: “My husband and sister-in-law (his sister) have had a strained relationship since childhood.
“I’ve always been very nice to her, but she has a competitive edge that wears off after a while.
“She always said we were going to have our wedding/children around the same time but it didn’t work out that way.
“We have two children, four and one, and they tried for the first time since June after their wedding in May.”
The woman explained that because of that situation her sister-in-law wanted to change their festival plans.
She said: “It was agreed in advance that we would pick up my sister-in-law and her husband, mother and father-in-law and my parents and siblings. My husband’s house was just a mile away from us and my family would stay. end.
“My sister-in-law texted tonight and said she couldn’t see us through xmas, it was too hard while they [trying to conceive] and she couldn’t let ‘our fortunes get rubbed in her face’.
“She also said she wanted her parents to opt out as well so they could spend together.”
The woman understood the discomfort, but was disappointed with the decision.
She said she couldn’t see us through the xmas, it was too hard while they [trying to conceive] and she couldn’t let ‘our fortunes get rubbed in her face’.
She said: “I haven’t responded, I totally resonate with not wanting to spend xmas on babies when that’s what you’re craving.
“But between my two children, I had a uterine rupture where I lost a tube, twice prematurely, and lost 16 weeks.
“She knows this, she watched me go through the whole thing.
“Comments about luck have been swirling around my little head all night and I’m so upset about it, I feel like she’s saying it on purpose to strike a chord.
“I know I’m very lucky to have two healthy children and I’m so grateful but f***, the youngest has been hard pressed to win and I feel as though she’s been at her best for a bit.”
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The Mumsnet users quickly began to think.
One said: “As someone who is struggling, please don’t take it personally. She is probably so far in her own head out of sadness and stress that your struggle is perhaps even unrecognized.”
Another said: “I totally understand the difficulty she is having but I can’t understand her not letting other people visit you.
“But I think I’ll wait until tomorrow and let your husband call and say you understand. But get out.”
While a third said: “I suspect from her point of view she would take your pain in exchange for two healthy children. Infertility is hard, try to be gentle. “
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https://www.the-sun.com/lifestyle/4209117/mum-sister-in-law-refusing-christmas-trying-baby/ I’m a mother and my sister-in-law refused to come to Christmas because she was trying for a baby and didn’t want to be with my family.