Night feedings, dirty diapers and leaky nipples – it’s a never-ending cycle for many new moms.
But imagine doing it all again before your child turns a year old.
That’s the reality for ex-star Towie Lauren Goodger, who became pregnant just eight weeks after giving birth to daughter Larose in July.
The 35-year-old was pregnant twice by Charles Drury, 24, said: ‘We weren’t very careful and Charlie was really pleased. But I really have two thoughts about it. I was like, ‘I’m just getting back together – I’m going back to square one. Is this fair? ‘”
Kerrie Backhouse and Lucy Carr both know what it’s like to have kids so close in age.
Kerrie, 25, has a son Brodie, 19 months, just 11 months, eight months older than her sister Marnie-Mae.
Meanwhile, Lucy, 27, has two newborn daughters eight months apart.
“It wasn’t easy,” she said. We buy 306 diapers every month. And sleep? What is this? My youngest brother wakes me up so that I can see for hours in the night.
“It affects my body, mentally and physically. The reverse pregnancies were more and more exhausted and I became very anemic. I also went from size 12 to size 16. But I accepted that this was my new body for a while. ”
Lucy and her partner James, 26, from Birmingham, had sex for the first time eight weeks after Felicity was born in September 2020.
But because Lucy has a gynecological condition and doesn’t easily get pregnant with Felicity, they never thought they would conceive so quickly.
She said: ‘The condom broke but we weren’t stressed at all. Previously, I had been trying for a baby for 5 years with another partner and it took us three months to conceive Felicity. Plus, I used to breastfeed. “
Women may experience delayed fertility while breastfeeding. The NHS says it’s completely possible to get pregnant as soon as three weeks after giving birth, even if you’re breastfeeding and your periods haven’t started yet.
When Lucy’s periods hadn’t returned three months after giving birth to Felicity, she took a pregnancy test, mainly to show civil engineer James that she wasn’t pregnant.
It affects my body, mentally and physically. The reverse pregnancies were more and more exhausted and I became very anemic.
She said: “I took the test to reassure James that it was normal that my periods had not returned since I stopped breastfeeding Felicity at 6 weeks old. Well, you can imagine the shock when it comes back positive.
“It was even more shocking when we tracked back when the birth control failed – it meant I was nine weeks pregnant.”
The pregnancy started off smoothly but Lucy’s water broke at 25 weeks. After several other complications – including getting Covid into the hospital – Lucy gave birth to Willow following an emergency C-section at 28 weeks 5. day. Baby weighs 2lb 7oz.
Lucy said: “It was a horrible period before Willow was born and she went through a seven-week neonatal intensive care unit before joining us at home. My kids are now 16 months and 8 months old and they are definitely each other’s favorites.
“Felicity really enjoys helping her sister. I think the fact that we bought her a dolly when she was six months old will help prepare for the birth of her sister. Willow gives his sister the best smiles and keeps a close eye on her.”
But Lucy admits being a mother of two girls of the same age is not easy.
She said: “Life with two children close in age is chaotic. I don’t breastfeed anymore but because Willow is so preterm I exclusively breastfed him until he was ten weeks old.
“I had to perform every two hours, every 30 minutes, even during the night – then Felicity was only eight to ten months old. Now, I can’t even answer the door for the postman without having to bring one of them with me because Felicity will climb Mount Willow any chance she gets.
“They also love having a contest to see who can scream the loudest. Willow recently started weaning, so Felicity now thinks she has to put everything in Willow’s mouth, from socks to cat toys.”
Kerrie, from Crewe, also knows what it’s like to share a baby, with son Brodie, 19 months, and daughter Marnie-Mae, eight months. The mother also has Oliver, 4, who said: “It was very stressful. For starters, it’s very expensive.
“We spend £70 a month on baby milk. It gets us into trouble at times. I love my kids but I’ll probably tell my friends to avoid it. It’s hard to have two people at such a close age. Before I had two youngest children, I used to go out every weekend.
“Breaktime includes showering, watching TV, takeout and sleeping. Even washing the bottle can be a challenge as we both cry continuously until I return to the room. They fight over toys and I can’t even go to the bathroom in peace.”
I have the worst ‘motherhood guilt’ because I feel like my daughter needs more time, younger, so I feel like my son is very anorexic.
Brodie was six weeks old when Kerrie and her partner Cameron Watton, 23, a scaffolder, conceived again. “It was like my first pregnancy never ended and I was 18 months pregnant,” says Kerrie. I was just exhausted.”
At week seven, she stopped breastfeeding because she was exhausted. “I would have spent days lying in bed if my oldest brother had been with his father and overslept watching TV,” says Kerrie. I was tired. Brodie has become a dad’s boy, so the pressure has eased a bit, but our relationship has weakened considerably. We rebuilt it now but it’s really hard.
“I have the worst ‘motherhood guilt’ because I feel like my daughter needs more time, younger, so I feel like my son is very anorexic. However, I wouldn’t change it for the sake of the world. I just don’t think people understand how it drains. It doubles everything, plus the burnout.”
https://www.the-sun.com/lifestyle/4582574/back-to-back-pregnancies-306-nappies-a-month/ I was pregnant backwards – I buy 306 diapers a month and I only sleep an hour a night