NO BABY wants to feel like the least-favorite sibling, but one man can’t help feeling that way – and he even has proof.
He said that his mother was giving him a smaller wedding gift than she had given to his sisters just because she disapproved of his fiancée.
“I want to start with it being about money and it’s not about money either,” the man, who shared his story in an anonymous Reddit post, said at the top of his post.
“It hurts to be treated differently, and I know Reddit believes no one owes anyone anything, but I feel like a mother owes her kids fair treatment.”
The frustrated son went on to explain that he was getting married in May, and while his father was paying for his wedding just like he did for his two sisters, his mother gave both sisters a big present as a present while she invited him. nothing.
“I don’t want to get into exact numbers but it’s extremely generous and probably more than paying for a house upfront,” he notes.
The groom explained that the rejection was caused by his mother’s disapproval that his fiancée had $80,000 in student loans in her name, while he didn’t because he was lucky enough to have his parents pay for college.
The groom was so upset that he admitted to confronting his mother and warned that her actions were intolerable and that she would suffer the consequences for her favoritism.
“My mother explained that neither of my brothers-in-law had any debt, so the money was to start a future, but she knew if she gave me the money it would go into a loan. (correct) and she felt she shouldn’t be ‘not responsible for another kid’s college education,'” the man recalls.
“I tried to explain that paying that debt as soon as possible was in my future best interests.”
The poster’s mother said she discussed the matter with her husband and both decided it was best not to give them the money and she would not change her mind.
The poster then revealed his final decision: He will not invite his mother to the wedding.
“She doesn’t like my fiancé.
‘She doesn’t care about my future as much as my sisters’.
“She was playing her favorite games with her kids,” he explained.
He admitted that his whole family was furious and his sisters had threatened that they would not come to the wedding if their mother was not invited, but in the end he felt he had given up. best decision.
“My fiancée was literally in tears because she feels so supported, and this hurts but it has to be my priority,” he concluded.
While the poster is confident in his decision, the Internet seems to be much more indecisive on the matter.
“Yes, paying off your loans is also an investment in your future. But think of it this way,” suggested one Reddit user protesting the groom.
“If your sister’s marriage falls apart, they get a ‘return’ on the investment (part of the house or equivalent even if it’s in the joint name), so they can feel free to restore and start over.
“What do you get back from paying your debt if you and your fiancé break up?”
However, another reader expressed concern about the situation, saying: “This sounds like: ‘You don’t choose a rich wife so you get less money because I don’t want to pay the bills. a poor man’s loan.'”
The third person sympathizes with both sides that a compromise is needed.
“Agreed that you would actually put down a down payment on a house instead of paying off the loans.
“You still get the gift but your mother doesn’t feel her gift is, in her mind, being ‘abused,'” they reasoned.
Of course, this isn’t the first time a bride or groom has not invited a family member to their wedding.
Another Reddit user previously stated that he uninvited his sister from his special day but she appeared in a white dress anyway.
More questions, a bride is threatened not to invite her parents to her wedding if they don’t help financially.
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