It’s important when in a relationship that you trust your partner to respect your boundaries.
Unfortunately, this bride-to-be was forced to close her wedding door after her man went behind her.
Taking to Reddit to remain anonymous, a 26-year-old bride wrote: “My fiancé and I are expected to get married in 3 weeks.
“We were going to have a small wedding, and we both had our bachelor/ bachelorette party with our wedding reception. I went to a chalet with my friends, we had a spa day. and just relax, and my husband and his friends are supposed to do something similar.
“I told my husband before that if he went to a strip club I wouldn’t marry him because I wasn’t comfortable with him going.
“He came back and the first thing he said was ‘Honey, I’m so sorry, but the men surprised me and took me to a strip club’ and I said ‘oh, so what did you do? ‘ and he looked at me blankly and said ‘what do you mean?’ and I said ‘what happened when you told them you couldn’t be there?’ and he looked at me and said ‘um, me’ and didn’t know what to say.
“I immediately got upset and told him I was going to sleep at my sister’s house, and I didn’t want to marry him anymore, even if it meant losing thousands of dollars.
“My fiance is begging me to give him another chance and thinks therapy might help but my trust is completely violated.
“My sister thought I was overreacting when she hired a stripper for her husband’s bachelorette party, but I don’t think she understood that I was setting different boundaries in the relationship. mine.
“This is the line that was set five years ago when we started dating.”
After posting her story, she asked people’s opinions on what they would do if their line was crossed by their fiancé as well.
One person wrote: “It’s up to you. I’m definitely not getting married. This is not okay.
“He knows boundaries, he accepts boundaries, he goes out of his way to push boundaries. This is definitely something that needs to be worked out before getting married.
“I think it can be fixed through counseling. But, are you both willing to do that? It’s something you both have to decide.”
A second agreed and said, “You’ve made it clear that you’ll walk away if he goes to a strip club.
“He CHOOSE to go to one. He wasn’t forced. No one had a gun to his head.
“You don’t have to end the relationship if you don’t want to. But marrying him now after what he did will leave you with a lifetime of resentment. What should be the happiest moment of your life? your life is polluted by this.
“And in the end, he’ll always know that no matter what, he can still push your boundaries and there won’t be any consequences.
“I would tell him that the wedding is over no matter what and that you need more time to decide if you’re going to walk away completely… and he’s bearing the whole burden. of the cancellation. It’s his decision to cross your boundaries so he pays the financial price.”
And a third commented: “He’s shown that his friend’s opinion (if that’s what he’s worried about) is more important to him than the clearly communicated boundaries of pressure.” original poster.
“When/where will he throw their relationship under the bus for convenience/easy?”
Surprisingly, no one defended the groom. What you will do? Will you stay or will you leave?
https://www.the-sun.com/lifestyle/4360062/bride-called-off-wedding-groom-strip-club/ I canceled my wedding after my man went to a strip club – my family said I was overreacting but he broke my trust