His heart felt heavy as he held his daughter in his arms as she cried uncontrollably.
She looked at him with a wet face and a runny nose and begged, “Please, Daddy, I don’t want to go!” She refused to tell him why, and that made him even heavier. This has become her usual morning routine and he had to find out why.
The Valerio family was very emotional on the first day of their daughter’s daycare, but she was bright and hopeful as she got on the bus and returned home with a big smile and lots of stories to tell.
Every single day was an adventure for her, but once she switched schools to Spring Hill, things quickly went downhill.
TALK ABOUT IT
In the beginning, her little girl was as happy as could be. But after a while, when they asked her how her day went, she seemed a lot less optimistic.
Tomas and his wife shared a worried look as the family sat around the dining table. They knew she was going through a difficult time, but how could they help her if she didn’t talk to them.
MAKES NO SENSE
What if she was being bullied or had trouble understanding what was going on at school?
Tomas didn’t like not knowing what was on his little girl’s mind, so he quickly called the school. But when he got the answers he wanted, he realized something didn’t make sense. He still felt uncomfortable about all of this. What reason did the school have to lie?
It was alleged that her daughter had a hard time adjusting to her teacher’s loud voice. Mrs. Duncan’s voice often surprised the children, but eventually they got used to it.
They said it just “took time,” but the parents didn’t believe that was true.
RATHER BE AT HOME
His daughter was the shell of what she once was. She was tired and exhausted and afraid to wake up in the morning.
The situation got so bad that she started asking her parents if she couldn’t stay at home. Questions turned to begging, leading to full-blown breakdowns. He held his child in his loving arms and tried his best not to collapse in front of her. He knew this had to stop.
SOMETHING MUST BE DONE
He didn’t know what to do. No one at school would help him and any attempts to monitor the teacher were unsuccessful as she made sure to look her best while others looked on…
He knew he had to act directly to help his little girl. He did what he thought was the only thing he could do. He called the police.
SECRET RECORDING DEVICE
He made sure not to give them details just yet, but received adequate replies that convinced him of his plan.
As his daughter got ready for school the next day, he did what any sensible father in his position would do. He hid a small recording device in his daughter’s ponytail. At last they would hear how Mrs. Duncan was behind closed doors.
They didn’t tell their daughter about the device because they didn’t want to increase her stress.
Tomas checked his watch every 10 minutes and anxiously waited for 3pm. He desperately needed answers. As soon as his daughter walked in, he removed the device from her hair and pocketed it.
Tomas’ stomach churned as he listened to the recording. His daughter’s teacher was a bully.
She constantly verbally abused and yelled at her students. The parents were red with anger. “No, you obviously don’t understand that”, “Pipp!”, “Are you deaf?”, “That’s common sense!”. Those were the horrible things his daughter had to listen to every day. He knew it was time for the next step.
THE CHAIN UP
No, they didn’t go to the teacher or principal. They would go straight to the school board.
After all, the principal’s take on the situation was that they were “too protective of their daughter,” and the girl just needed to toughen up. They stood in front of the board and presented their case.
BEAT ON THE WRIST
The Valerio family couldn’t believe what happened next.
The final decision was to discipline the teacher and move her child to another classroom. But what about the other children? And if a teacher was a 13-year-old bully, a slap on the hand wouldn’t change anything. No, they wanted her out of the classroom.
Tomas held onto his phone as the school board said the recordings were disallowed because they “broke their policies and rules.”
The cops told him they should have given more details beforehand but now they couldn’t help. Nobody would do anything. Had the world gone mad?!
However, word had gotten around at school and among other parents.
Next, a petition should be started to fire the teacher, or at least remove him from all front-facing positions near children. The page ended with over 2000 signatures. Would it be enough?
Unfortunately, the school board stuck to their position. They were not interested in arguments about educators’ responsibilities and adaptation to students’ needs.
Kindergarten and the early grades are tremendously important in developing socialization skills, problem solving, and many other facets of their lives. Mrs. Duncan failed as a teacher.
Tomas argued it was “to be loud, but to be loud with the right tone”.
Kindergarten should be a place of joy and excitement and a safe space to make mistakes and learn from them – and not be punished for it. The end result wasn’t what they hoped for, but it was better than nothing…
First, her daughter was transferred to a new classroom, and the move happened almost immediately.
The radiant smile returned and Tomas was finally able to breathe freely again. The creative streak returned and the conversations over dinner were full of joy. As for Mrs Duncan?
I’M FROM NEW YORK
She came up with every kind of excuse, including that she was “from New York” and always did things that way when she was teaching there — including the phrase “Are you deaf?”. (with which the administration was not satisfied).
Her reprimand wasn’t much either.
HOLD IT DOWN
The punishment was just a reminder to keep her “volume down a little” and pay attention to her tone.
Some parents have defended the woman, but there are at least 2,000 who disagreed with the woman’s compassion, patience and handling of more vulnerable children. The Valerio family also has its own updates.
Tomas sees the ordeal as something that made her family stronger.
Your children know that their parents will always be there for them and will always fight for them. They’ve also found better ways to communicate about what’s happening at school. Your daughter is happy now and that’s all they want.
https://news.detroitdailynews.com/2023/03/07/dad-puts-recording-device-in-her-hair-catches-teacher-in-the-act/ Dad sticks a tape recorder in her hair and catches the teacher in the act